What do you really mean by being positive or positive thinking ?

What do you really mean by being positive? Is it really possible to be positive all the time? Many people think this is new age fad, this is just a theory or Gyan, this is impractical or unrealistic, and it is impossible…. so on. While interacting with these people I realized they have lot of misconceptions about ‘positive thinking’ or ‘being positive’.

First of all ‘positive thinking’ or ‘being positive’ doesn’t mean that you will never feel down, confused, anxious, fearful, angry etc. It doesn’t mean that you will stay in ‘highly motivated positive vibes’ zone all the time, 365 day and 24/7. It doesn’t completely eradicate negative emotions from your system. It is not at all about suppressing, hiding, ignoring, rejecting or not acknowledging these feelings or thoughts. It doesn’t guarantee that you will never face challenges or problems in life. It is not about being just goody-goody and ideal virtuous person all the time. Negative emotions exist for certain reason, it is a strong force trying to convey certain message, unfortunately we are never trained to express it in correct manner and decode that message.

‘Positive thinking’ is much more than merely thinking good thoughts and affirming nice words. Fundamentally it is an approach. It is the belief system and mind set. It is a way of living. It is about how you are as person; how you deal with your emotions; what you think; how you view people, situations, society and the world. It is totally about choices that you make in any situations in life.

When life knocks you down completely leaving you totally clueless why this is happening, giving you all possible reasons to play victim by blaming destiny and indulging into self pity but you decide to trust divine wisdom. You trust that everything is happening for the best. You understand that there is a reason behind everything that we experience in life, though we may not be able to comprehend but yes there is a reason for sure!....this is being positive

When you face challenges and problems in life you acknowledge your fears, confusions, frustration, anger, insecurities etc all negative emotions associated with that situation, but instead of totally succumbing to these emotions and cribbing about it you focus on finding solutions to come out of it, you seek right help instead of just endlessly discussing and talking about problems. You learn from those incidences and get ready to move ahead in life!.... you are being positive

When your own weaknesses and limitations becomes stumbling blocks to success, when you face failure yet instead of judging yourself harshly, feeling like a looser you focus on self improvement, you focus on improving your strengths and think about how can I improve myself? What can I do differently to achieve success?....this is being positive

When you stay assertive, stand in your true power, draw healthy boundaries with people yet operate from genuine love and compassion; when you include people in your life accept them the way they are, instead of holding on grudges you chose forgiveness; when you have true gratitude towards everything this life is offering to you, when you choose love, kindness and fairness over hatred and revenge no matter how much you have suffered in life; when you are aligned with your heart’s voice and act accordingly and not let opinions and criticism of others to control you….you are being positive

So yes you ‘Being positive’ or ‘positive thinking’ doesn’t mean that you feel positive all the time, but this is about approach you have beneath the surface of whatever situation you are going through.

Charuta 

Co-Founder 

Unicorn Insight 

www.unicorninsight.com